Progress is Overrated
The other day something happened in my personal life that made me feel like sh!t about myself. As so often happens, the specific circumstances of the situation DID NOT AT ALL indicate that I am a huge loser. But I have a very old story that I have accomplished nothing, that I am intrinsically defective, […]
This season sucks.
This season sucks. You feel me? I won’t bore you with my list of why I hate the holidays; I bet you have your own list. But for those of you who hate the season, here’s a set of mindset shifts to alchemize your loathing. Not with the intention of turning you into a happy-go-lucky […]
Ugh BURNOUT is Here
I had to take a sick day on Tuesday. I way, WAY overdid it with the errands and tasks the day before. And I burned myself out. Here’s what I had done on Monday: I called my elderly cousin.I made and ate breakfast.I had a meeting with a colleague.I walked the dog. I had a […]
People-pleasing is Controlling
People-pleasing is so controlling,I realized recently. I say this as a veteran people-pleaser. Many people-pleasers developed their people-pleasing habits in childhood, when they needed to appease an abusive or authoritarian parent. Their child minds recognized what needed to be done to preserve their safety, their sense of belonging, and did it. Bless those early selves […]
Don’t Let Her Drive
I spent a day with a friend who is having a very hard time right now. During that day, I said and did a couple of things that were insensitive. So this morning, I woke up thinking about it. In came the berating voice. “Why did you say that? Why did you DO that? What’s […]