freaking out about a relationship?
You know that thing we ADHD women do when something goes wrong in a relationship? Ruminating.Perseverating.Obsessing.Blaming yourself.Replaying it again and again. Here’s an important rule of thumb, when it comes to navigating relationships as an ADHD woman: If you’re not an important person in someone’s life, they shouldn’t be an important person in your life. […]
“potential” is bullsh!t
When you were a kid, did you hear a lot of stuff like: “She doesn’t work up to her potential.”“You’re wasting your potential.”“If you’d just apply yourself, you’d reach your potential.” Guess what—that kind of message doesn’t help kids! And my guess is that it sure didn’t help you, when you were an ADHD girl […]
emotions come out of nowhere for us
Here’s a classic scenario I hear from a lot of ADHD women, and experience myself. You’re going about your day, you think you feel pretty good, when all of a sudden you have a big emotional response to something. Maybe you burst into tears at a TV commercial. Or you snap at your spouse.Or you […]
don’t fix your sensitivity
There’s a phase many ADHD women go through when they first find out about RSD.A phase I hope you will skip! (If you don’t already know, RSD stands for Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria. It’s a phrase researchers use to describe a particular ADHD pattern of “extreme” emotional sensitivity to rejection.) In this phase, an ADHD woman’s […]
your ADHD mask
Do you know about ADHD masking? “Masking” refers to the false persona that neurodivergent people put on in order to navigate neurotypical expectations. Masking shows up in a million different ways that are personal to each ADHDer. It could be pretending you don’t need help when you do. Working way more hours than everybody else […]