Today I Had To Cut Off My Wedding Ring


Today I had to cut my wedding ring off.

My pandemic survival strategy was this:

Get coaching. Lift weights. Practice Intuitive Eating. Practice loving myself no matter what.

Like everyone else, I lost a lot during the pandemic—a sense of security, connection to my community, a beloved pet, and a precious family member.

And I gained a lot: a new career, greater self-trust, powerful thighs, rock-solid faith in a carefully-curated, trouble-tested set of relationships.

I also gained a couple of dress sizes.

When I realized my ring was TOO TIGHT and was NOT MOVING, I had a whoooolllee bunch of self-denigrating thoughts about my appearance, my age, my value as a person and a woman.

Then, because I have worked and worked on this, I reminded myself:

I got that ring the day I was married, almost TWENTY YEARS AGO.

Is it reasonable to think that my body should stay the same for 20 years?

NO.

It’s really not.

Bodies change!

They change for all kinds or reasons, as we move through time.

It is okay for me to change as I get older.

It is safe for me to change as I get older.

It is a privilege for me to change as I get older.

It is natural for me to change as I get older.

It is beautiful for me to change as I get older.

I am mortal.

My mortality is part of my life’s beauty.

So is yours.

This is just the tip of the iceberg of what I have to say about bodies changing during the pandemic, and how we all feel about that.

For now, it’s enough to say that

regardless of how my clothes or rings fit,

my project,

my passion,

my practice,

my path

is self love.

And yours can be too.

…~*~…

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