My Philosophy
In my work, I take this premise: ADHD is not a defect to mend, but a magic to tend. (The cutesy rhyme helps me remember this key value of mine.) Let’s unpack that a little, starting with “not a defect to mend.” ADHD’s not something to heal, because you’re not sick. It’s not something to fix, […]
Stop Telling Yourself These 5 Things
Beloved ADHD Woman,Stop telling yourself these five things:1) “I’m just making excuses.”An excuse is a bad faith explanation to absolve yourself of consequences.I know a lot of ADHD women. And most of them, far from using their ADHD as an excuse, default to thinking that their challenges are the result of a character flaw.Your ADHD […]
The “D” Word
Beloved ADHD friend,A lot of us struggle with the “D” word.It’s the unwelcome subtext lurking in the background of a lot of conversations I have with people who are juuuussst beginning to come to terms with their ADHD.And what I’m trying to do, in those conversations, is bring it into the foreground, to offer it […]
You’re Expecting Too Much
You may be perfectly capable of doing the thing, when conditions are ideal.BUTplease know that “capable of doing the thing under ideal circumstances” is WAY DIFFERENT than “capable of doing the thing under any circumstances.”And one example of a CIRCUMSTANCE is “every week, at about the same time.” Or “daily.”So are you //capable// of, say, […]
My Beef with Capitalism
Listen, I wouldn’t complain about capitalism if it worked. But it doesn’t work!And by “doesn’t work“ what I mean is that it doesn’t move toward any of the values that are important to me as a human being.Some of my values are:⁃ Concern for vulnerable people⁃ Love and care of planet Earth, which, for all […]